I recently received an email from a friend. She is dealing with a 15 year old son who has recently been behaving very disrespectful and rebellious towards her. In the past, she like many of us, allowed herself to be manipulated because of guilt for mistakes she made.
Now she has turned her life around and is trying hard to be a good mother and not allow her past to be an excuse for not having rules or holding her son accountable for his actions. She is doing her best to help her son make good choices.
She has always given him really nice presents on his birthday and Christmas but in light of his behavior asked if I thought it would be too harsh if she just gave him a card on his birthday this year? The following is my response:
As far as your son is concerned I wouldn't think twice about only sending him a card. I have learned that you can give your kids your very life, and if they have a bad attitude they will somehow turn it into something negative!!!
I mean you could push them out of the way of an on coming bus and let the bus run you over and later all you would hear is "Ya one time, my Mom pushed me across the street for no reason. I fell and scraped both hands and knees!!! Ya and ripped a big hole in my new Tommy jeans I just bought" Of course with the money you gave him but he forgot that part?
Then someone might say "you’re not referring to the time she saved you from being hit by a bus are you?" To which the boy would reply with "Oh, is that what you heard? Ha, ha, I knew that bus was coming and I could easily have gotten out of the way." She should have left well enough alone and she'd still have her legs!!!!"
Unfortunately if your son is displaying the kind of attitude that is so disrespectful you could get him a new yacht and although he initially may flatter you with superficial gratitude eventually you will hear “you should have never given me that yacht” or just fill in the blank with any item it will be the same response.
I know this sounds a bit harsh but unfortunately it is all too true. Kids are not stupid. To the contrary they are smart. They also are like we were at that age, very head strong and foolish.
They will try to manipulate you, by making you think when you give tough love, that they think you don't love them. Initially they may really think that, but usually only for a day or two. Soon, they will hopefully realize, you are doing it because you do love them.
However, even if they don't, do you think it is ever right to reward rebellious and disrespectful behavior? Of course not!!! If you do, they will have successfully manipulated you, and disrespect you even more.
I am sorry you are having this struggle with your son. I know how painful it is. Don't beat yourself up. He is a unique human being who like all of us has the ability to choose how to act and what to say.
He is 15 years old now and you can not control him. You can't make him behave a certain way or feel a certain way. You must however have order in your home and in your life. There must be certain rules. Choose your battles wisely and do not let the fact that you are not perfect keep you from trying to set high standards.
If we all say we can’t ask our children not to do things that we did or to learn from our mistakes then we are in big trouble!!
If I have ever told a lie does that now mean I am disqualified from teaching my children that it is wrong to tell a lie?
If I have ever cheated, stolen anything, lusted after another woman, committed adultery and so on, does that mean it is no longer wrong? Because I have failed like all of humanity to perfectly obey the Ten Commandments am I to admit my defeat and never again attempt to obey them or teach those in my trust to do the same???
Do you see how ridiculous that sounds when you really look at it? If we all took that line of thinking and ran with it we would be living in a Society well, not too much different than the one we are living in now!!!
A world without any moral absolutes. Where everyone is afraid to take a stand for what is right and to declare anything wrong much less evil!!! Yet that is what “they have been telling us “whoever they are?? It is exactly what are children would try to make us believe when they suggest we have no authority because we did___________.
Lying isn’t wrong because I said so, or because I never have lied, or because I lie all the time, it is wrong because God Said So.
The same is true about adultery, murder, stealing, idol worship, Worshiping any other God besides the one true God, taking Gods name in vain, Remembering the Sabbath day to keep it Holy, coveting, and honoring your mother and father.
These moral rules are not right or wrong because I said so or because I have kept them or broken them. They are what is right and what is in our best interest because God Almighty said so!!!
The sooner we wake up and realize this, the better off as individuals, and as a society will be!!!
We have slid so far in our thinking that we actually are questioning ourselves when our children are being disrespectful, rude, and ugly towards us if not giving them a gift and only sending them a card is too mean!!!!
If I was a horrible rotten person growing up can I not teach and encourage my children to have a higher standard and to strive to be like Christ? Of course I can and I should!!!
So my answer is, no it would not be too mean. Send him the card and tell him you love him. I wouldn’t mention anything else or explain why you didn’t send a gift. You shouldn’t have to explain it!!!!
Then do your best to draw near to God. Recognize as we all must, our own faults and sin, and plead with God to help us to repent of our own sinfulness. Plead with Him to help us to change.
To help us use what time we have wisely. Spending more time in prayer and reading our Bibles. Understanding that just like in any relationship we will get to know Him better the more time we spend with Him. That by doing this we may be more like Christ and be led by Him. So that we may regain discernment between good and evil and have the courage to stand up for what is right and speak out against what is wrong. Finally that God will lead us and guide us in all our decisions and actions towards are children as well as others.
"Do not be discouraged for I am with you always even unto the end of the age" Matt. 28:20
" I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me" Phil 4:13
bpersuaded
Monday, July 26, 2010
Friday, July 25, 2008
How to turn every female on earth into your personal sex zombie!! Starting Now.
There are many sites and articles written on the topic of "How to be a Chick magnet". Most tell you that they alone have found the magic key to open the hearts of all women and make any girl you want fall in love with you overnight. Plus as a bonus five tips to make her crave your body for sex 24/7.
I must confess I have never paid for any of these top secret cure all programs and maybe I would be pleasantly surprised if I did. However, when I was in high school and up until I met my wife when I was 23, I never had a problem attracting women or getting a girlfriend. I married a girl who was far better than I ever in my wildest dreams thought I would get.
Unfortunately she died from Breast cancer in 1996. I never got a chance to date much after she died because 6 months after she died while still in deep grief and depression I met a young lady who made me feel loved and about 4 months later we married. She was also very attractive but not quite as mature or stable as the first one.
We separated after only 3 years and were divorced in January of 2000. So I have been living the single life for eight and a half years. With my first wife I experienced true love and a wonderful relationship built on trust. My second was one of turmoil, deceit unfaithfulness by her and an ugly divorce.
I do want to say on behalf of my ex. she is doing well we have put the past behind and have a very good and healthy relationship which is in the best interest of our son.
After the dust settled I told my children I would never bring anyone home to be a part of our family that didn't agree with our family mission statement.
That mission statement was something we worked out together while on a camping trip. I asked my kids if you could live in the perfect family what would it be like. What do you want most in a family? I gave them a couple of days to think about it then I had them write their ideas on blank paper and fold them up. I did that so no one would be afraid their suggestion wasn't cool. Then I began opening them up reading them out loud and prioritizing them. This eventually lead to our Family Mission Statement.
It defines who we are, gives us a clear standard or goal to reach for, and when we get off course it reminds us of our destination.
So LADIES ESPECIALLY I would love some feed back on these suggestions of how to attract women.
1) Know who you are as a man and where you’re going.
2) Know what you’re looking for or want in a companion.
3) If you haven't done one in two stop right now and do that because women are not attracted to men (on purpose) that have no direction, goals , are over 30 and still trying to figure out what they want, who they are, and what to be when they grow up.
4) Look for opportunities to help out the single women you know with household chores they can't or don't know how to do and can't afford. Be a giver not a taker. Just be friends for at least a year. That's right be friends for a year and watch them over a year as different issues come up. This way you can see more clearly how they react under pressure.
4) Treat women with respect and like a lady even if you know she's a drug addicted whore. Why? Because most likely it was one of our gender that made her that way. So quit judging her and calling her psycho when one of your buddies or some guy at one time took advantage of her ,treated her horribly, most likely physically abused her and then threw her away. Then goes around complaining about where are all the good girls these days!
5) Make a list of what character qualities you want, what sorts of habits and history you will or will not accept. Then stick to it.
6) Accept the fact that it is better to be alone and single then to compromise your entire list so for the short term you can get laid and feel loved. Only to later discover you shouldn't have compromised and settled. This only leads to broken hearts and another emotional setback.
7) Realize that though looks, to most men, are a key element that eventually they will all look like either old ladies or old bags. Sorry ladies but its true with both men and women. People who live their lives always seeing things negatively with a victim mentality and blame everyone else for their problems and get bitterer as they grow older age faster. They have permanent frowns and many times are very sickly. So of course you have to be physically attracted to her but what should be most attractive about her to you is who she is as a person.
8) Yes, that's right you better know who she is and what she wants, or your back to step three. How do you ever find that out? Ask questions and I don't mean questions like "are you cooking dinner yet" or did you have time to mow the yard today? or where's the remote? I mean questions like "if money wasn't an issue and you could do anything you wanted for the next year what would you do? The next five? Until you die? Or think of some open ended questions that will give you an idea of what her hopes, dreams, past things she's proud of and those that still cause her pain. Be truly interested in her as a person.
9) When it comes to the physical part of showing affection and all that leads up to sex, quit thinking about how good its going to be once you get past the foreplay and get to put it in for 30-60 seconds, then sigh and rollover to fall asleep like a selfish jerk. Instead read sex manuals written by women and magazine articles. If you don't already know how to please her, this will point you in the right direction. Here again the best way to find out what she likes most and what she doesn't is ask her and then be sure and listen to her answer.
I have found that when I completely forget about my own desires and completely focus on making sure that when we are through she will have a very satisfied smile on her face and hopefully say something like " Wow I haven't had sex like that in long time as a matter of fact that was about as good as it gets" You really turned me on and made me feel so sexy" Hopefully you get it by now. This can't be faked on your part because if your just doing it to ultimately get what you want she will know. But if you sincerely care about her and really want to treat her to the best time in her life trust me you will be rewarded for your unselfishness and will most likely be laying next to her saying " I know me too that was awesome"
10)Finally when your fortunate enough to find someone who matches your list, mission statement, and she is your best friend, then you better quickly realize you have found a most precious gem, a very rare beauty. Many men will live and die never having the good fortune of such a valuable find. If you have found one treat her as such. Realize that she is more precious than any jewel and treat her that way. Not just today but everyday and constantly do all you can to understand how you can please her , love her and make her feel like the princess, she always knew deep down she is. Never look back and never let up until death do you part.
You see I experienced this for eleven years of marriage and two of dating so for 13 years I was one of the fortunate ones. I still hope that I will some day find another rare jewel. Oh yeah one more thing I am not out desperately searching for her I am instead focused on my personal goals and my children. That is I am focused on what I can do something about. Yes that would be me. I still need much improvement and I want to be the best man she ever met. That's a real challenge and I know I have a long way to go.
SO GUYS HERE IS THE BOTTOM LINE THE REAL SECRET AND ITS FREE. BE A REAL MAN AND NOT A LOOSER. GO TO WORK, BE RESPONSIBLE, QUIT LYING AND CHEATING, BE SELF CONFIDENT AND NOT A WHINY MAMA'S BOY LOOKING FOR A MOMMA TO TAKE CARE OF YOU, FEED YOU, PROVIDE YOU WITH SEX ON DEMAND, WHILE YOU SIT ON YOUR BUTT AND GET HIGH, WHILE SHE IS AT WORK. IF YOU WILL FOLLOW THESE REALLY COMMON SENSE GUIDE LINES I BELIEVE YOUR RELATIONSHIPS WITH WOMEN WILL IMPROVE DRAMATICALLY.
Ok, maybe I didn't really tell you how to make all the women in the world become sex zombies who want you and you alone. Sorry but the truth is if that is what you wanted to do to women, then you really needed to read this.
Finally I suspect many of those relationship gurus that charge $30.oo -$75.00 for their secrets don't really have much more insight to women then what you just got from me for free.
So Ladies am I all throwed off, crazy, or on the money?
I must confess I have never paid for any of these top secret cure all programs and maybe I would be pleasantly surprised if I did. However, when I was in high school and up until I met my wife when I was 23, I never had a problem attracting women or getting a girlfriend. I married a girl who was far better than I ever in my wildest dreams thought I would get.
Unfortunately she died from Breast cancer in 1996. I never got a chance to date much after she died because 6 months after she died while still in deep grief and depression I met a young lady who made me feel loved and about 4 months later we married. She was also very attractive but not quite as mature or stable as the first one.
We separated after only 3 years and were divorced in January of 2000. So I have been living the single life for eight and a half years. With my first wife I experienced true love and a wonderful relationship built on trust. My second was one of turmoil, deceit unfaithfulness by her and an ugly divorce.
I do want to say on behalf of my ex. she is doing well we have put the past behind and have a very good and healthy relationship which is in the best interest of our son.
After the dust settled I told my children I would never bring anyone home to be a part of our family that didn't agree with our family mission statement.
That mission statement was something we worked out together while on a camping trip. I asked my kids if you could live in the perfect family what would it be like. What do you want most in a family? I gave them a couple of days to think about it then I had them write their ideas on blank paper and fold them up. I did that so no one would be afraid their suggestion wasn't cool. Then I began opening them up reading them out loud and prioritizing them. This eventually lead to our Family Mission Statement.
It defines who we are, gives us a clear standard or goal to reach for, and when we get off course it reminds us of our destination.
So LADIES ESPECIALLY I would love some feed back on these suggestions of how to attract women.
1) Know who you are as a man and where you’re going.
2) Know what you’re looking for or want in a companion.
3) If you haven't done one in two stop right now and do that because women are not attracted to men (on purpose) that have no direction, goals , are over 30 and still trying to figure out what they want, who they are, and what to be when they grow up.
4) Look for opportunities to help out the single women you know with household chores they can't or don't know how to do and can't afford. Be a giver not a taker. Just be friends for at least a year. That's right be friends for a year and watch them over a year as different issues come up. This way you can see more clearly how they react under pressure.
4) Treat women with respect and like a lady even if you know she's a drug addicted whore. Why? Because most likely it was one of our gender that made her that way. So quit judging her and calling her psycho when one of your buddies or some guy at one time took advantage of her ,treated her horribly, most likely physically abused her and then threw her away. Then goes around complaining about where are all the good girls these days!
5) Make a list of what character qualities you want, what sorts of habits and history you will or will not accept. Then stick to it.
6) Accept the fact that it is better to be alone and single then to compromise your entire list so for the short term you can get laid and feel loved. Only to later discover you shouldn't have compromised and settled. This only leads to broken hearts and another emotional setback.
7) Realize that though looks, to most men, are a key element that eventually they will all look like either old ladies or old bags. Sorry ladies but its true with both men and women. People who live their lives always seeing things negatively with a victim mentality and blame everyone else for their problems and get bitterer as they grow older age faster. They have permanent frowns and many times are very sickly. So of course you have to be physically attracted to her but what should be most attractive about her to you is who she is as a person.
8) Yes, that's right you better know who she is and what she wants, or your back to step three. How do you ever find that out? Ask questions and I don't mean questions like "are you cooking dinner yet" or did you have time to mow the yard today? or where's the remote? I mean questions like "if money wasn't an issue and you could do anything you wanted for the next year what would you do? The next five? Until you die? Or think of some open ended questions that will give you an idea of what her hopes, dreams, past things she's proud of and those that still cause her pain. Be truly interested in her as a person.
9) When it comes to the physical part of showing affection and all that leads up to sex, quit thinking about how good its going to be once you get past the foreplay and get to put it in for 30-60 seconds, then sigh and rollover to fall asleep like a selfish jerk. Instead read sex manuals written by women and magazine articles. If you don't already know how to please her, this will point you in the right direction. Here again the best way to find out what she likes most and what she doesn't is ask her and then be sure and listen to her answer.
I have found that when I completely forget about my own desires and completely focus on making sure that when we are through she will have a very satisfied smile on her face and hopefully say something like " Wow I haven't had sex like that in long time as a matter of fact that was about as good as it gets" You really turned me on and made me feel so sexy" Hopefully you get it by now. This can't be faked on your part because if your just doing it to ultimately get what you want she will know. But if you sincerely care about her and really want to treat her to the best time in her life trust me you will be rewarded for your unselfishness and will most likely be laying next to her saying " I know me too that was awesome"
10)Finally when your fortunate enough to find someone who matches your list, mission statement, and she is your best friend, then you better quickly realize you have found a most precious gem, a very rare beauty. Many men will live and die never having the good fortune of such a valuable find. If you have found one treat her as such. Realize that she is more precious than any jewel and treat her that way. Not just today but everyday and constantly do all you can to understand how you can please her , love her and make her feel like the princess, she always knew deep down she is. Never look back and never let up until death do you part.
You see I experienced this for eleven years of marriage and two of dating so for 13 years I was one of the fortunate ones. I still hope that I will some day find another rare jewel. Oh yeah one more thing I am not out desperately searching for her I am instead focused on my personal goals and my children. That is I am focused on what I can do something about. Yes that would be me. I still need much improvement and I want to be the best man she ever met. That's a real challenge and I know I have a long way to go.
SO GUYS HERE IS THE BOTTOM LINE THE REAL SECRET AND ITS FREE. BE A REAL MAN AND NOT A LOOSER. GO TO WORK, BE RESPONSIBLE, QUIT LYING AND CHEATING, BE SELF CONFIDENT AND NOT A WHINY MAMA'S BOY LOOKING FOR A MOMMA TO TAKE CARE OF YOU, FEED YOU, PROVIDE YOU WITH SEX ON DEMAND, WHILE YOU SIT ON YOUR BUTT AND GET HIGH, WHILE SHE IS AT WORK. IF YOU WILL FOLLOW THESE REALLY COMMON SENSE GUIDE LINES I BELIEVE YOUR RELATIONSHIPS WITH WOMEN WILL IMPROVE DRAMATICALLY.
Ok, maybe I didn't really tell you how to make all the women in the world become sex zombies who want you and you alone. Sorry but the truth is if that is what you wanted to do to women, then you really needed to read this.
Finally I suspect many of those relationship gurus that charge $30.oo -$75.00 for their secrets don't really have much more insight to women then what you just got from me for free.
So Ladies am I all throwed off, crazy, or on the money?
Hurrican Dolly
Hurricane Dolly is something you will hear about for days in the media. Just like Hurricane Katrina. Yes hurricanes are a way of life for those of us that live in the Gulf Coast and yes they can be devastating no doubt about it. When Hurricane Katrina blew through I was hunkered down in my home and we thankfully saw only a minor thunderstorm. The biggest disaster was the traffic pile up on I10 about a mile from my house. Due to the media frenzy and lack of planning many people panicked and tried to rush out of town. Unfortunately they didn’t get any further than I did sitting at home.
When the storm passed and the final count was taken somewhere around four thousand people died. Many more homes and businesses were destroyed. There was an enormous outpouring of relief to the victims of this storm.
I am in no means diminishing the pain or grief of those affected ,by what I am about to say, I am only offering a perspective I think needs hearing.
I had the unique perspective of watching this all from the Television in my 15 year old sons Hospital room at MD Anderson Hospital. Yes at the time he was being treated for Osteosarcoma a rare childhood bone cancer. He and a floor full of children in a hospital full of people all with cancer.
So hurricanes come and go and leave a path of destruction no doubt about it. But I couldn’t help but wonder as I sat and watch the children suffering all around me. Where is the human cry for help for these children who were suffering before the Hurricane and will be either suffering or dead by the time this story passes?
Cancer is the second leading cause of death in America. Second only to Heart disease. In 2005 559,312 people died from cancer according to the National Center for Health Statistics. All the Hurricanes that come and go this season and the next 10 will never take that many lives. But I guess its exciting news watching stuff get blown away. Not near as exciting as a bald headed 12 year old girl dyeing from cancer.
Maybe we should print a story and title it Hurricane Cancer half a million dead. Did you hear me? Death toll for 2005 559,312 people died. More than any Hurricane, any terrorist attack, any war, does anybody hear me!!!! Maybe if we called it Hurricane Cancer society would wake up and realize it doesn’t matter who you are or where you live this Hurricane is coming, it’s a category 5,and we are all sleeping!!! Wake up America and help find a cure before you’re the next victim of Hurricane Cancer
When the storm passed and the final count was taken somewhere around four thousand people died. Many more homes and businesses were destroyed. There was an enormous outpouring of relief to the victims of this storm.
I am in no means diminishing the pain or grief of those affected ,by what I am about to say, I am only offering a perspective I think needs hearing.
I had the unique perspective of watching this all from the Television in my 15 year old sons Hospital room at MD Anderson Hospital. Yes at the time he was being treated for Osteosarcoma a rare childhood bone cancer. He and a floor full of children in a hospital full of people all with cancer.
So hurricanes come and go and leave a path of destruction no doubt about it. But I couldn’t help but wonder as I sat and watch the children suffering all around me. Where is the human cry for help for these children who were suffering before the Hurricane and will be either suffering or dead by the time this story passes?
Cancer is the second leading cause of death in America. Second only to Heart disease. In 2005 559,312 people died from cancer according to the National Center for Health Statistics. All the Hurricanes that come and go this season and the next 10 will never take that many lives. But I guess its exciting news watching stuff get blown away. Not near as exciting as a bald headed 12 year old girl dyeing from cancer.
Maybe we should print a story and title it Hurricane Cancer half a million dead. Did you hear me? Death toll for 2005 559,312 people died. More than any Hurricane, any terrorist attack, any war, does anybody hear me!!!! Maybe if we called it Hurricane Cancer society would wake up and realize it doesn’t matter who you are or where you live this Hurricane is coming, it’s a category 5,and we are all sleeping!!! Wake up America and help find a cure before you’re the next victim of Hurricane Cancer
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